First of all Jon Acuff was brilliant as the keynote speaker at BlissDom. He brought out so many points that hit home with me and I want to share just a little of what I gleaned from his speech.
Never compare your beginning to someone else’s middle. How many times do you do this? I certainly do it far to often. I think to myself why am I not as good a blogger as so and so. The fact that where I am now shouldn’t be compared to where someone with more experience, more time blogging is at now. We are all at different points on our way to where we want to be.
When someone tells you what you can’t do, they are predicting something they don’t know. Remember this. Don’t ever let anyone tell you what you can and can’t achieve.
Social media can suck you in, don’t let it! How much time do you spend on social media sites? Then think how much time you give to your family? Social media is always there 24 / 7 and it can drag you in and away from your family. Jon gave an example of his daughter who while he was supposed to be helping with spelling words got distracted with a tweet that popped into his head. His daughter wrote on a napkin and handed it to him as he was on his cell phone ready to tweet a message – Daddy pay atenshon (Daddy pay attention). And it hit home. How many times do we tell our kids to “just hold on”, or “I just gotta tweet this”? Just think about it.
Focus on family. Don’t tweet it – let your kids be your kids not your content. All too often we get wrapped up in social media that our lives become our tweets or facebook messages and we don’t honest and truly focus on the moment at hand, the people we love. They are our loved ones not blog or twitter fodder.
Decide who it’s okay to disappoint. Yes, it’s okay to disappoint some people. It’s okay to disappoint your blog readers if you don’t post every single day. Learn who it’s okay to disappoint. You can’t please everyone all the time. But don’t disappoint your family, your husband and your children.
Stop chasing the haters online. Jon explained “critic’s math” as he called it. It’s this: 1 bad voice blinds 1,000 positive ones. Stop listening to that one and hear the other 1,000.
And it was this speech that kicked off what was to be my first BlissDom and I certainly hope not my last.
© 2012, Nanette Gomez. All rights reserved.
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Gah! Totally missed you at Blissdom. Thanks for this great summary- those points all resonated with me, too. Especially the part about time away from family. (She writes as they are all upstairs sleeping and decides she better join them.)
@KimMoldofsky
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