Some Homeschool Days are Just Plain Rough

fractions of a number

fractions of a number

Some homeschool days are just not easy. Today was one of those days. Frustrating for me, frustrating for him. I literally just wanted to scream and cry. Scream from the frustration, cry because I couldn’t help him. I felt so lost, so helpless. So afraid for Bug’s future. Yes those thought of what happens when he has a day like this at work as an adult with a job. They are always there.

It was rough, not that the work was rough but sometimes Bug’s brain just totally blocks out things that I know he knows how to do.

But one thing a friend of mine continues to remind me is that it’s ok to stop, it’s ok to take a break and let both of us regroup. It just breaks my heart to see my son in tears because he can’t remember what to do when he’s asked to “group” things together.

So I did it, I said enough! He needed a break and so did I. He had to go let all that frustration out and bring himself back down to a calm state of mind so he could continue. So after I held him in my arms as he allowed those tears of frustration to fall, I let him do that, I let him go on his own so he could regain his composure.

I just didn’t want to face those math problems again, not yet. He worked on language arts and did just fine. For some reason, his brain just was refusing to think in terms of math today. But I couldn’t just let him give up. So after the hugs, tears, a break, Language Arts and lunch I decided to jump back in and hoped and prayed we could get through math now.

teddy bear counting

I pulled the teddy bear counters out again and as calmly as I could I worked with him trying my best not to let frustration get a hold of me again. Today’s frustrations were not his failure but mine. Can I just please remember it’s ok to take a break when we need it? This isn’t public school, why won’t my brain remember that?

© 2014, Nanette Gomez. All rights reserved.

Scholarships for Swimmers with Autism

autism ribbon

autism ribbonApril is Autism Awareness Month. Yes, I know it’s not April yet but like I’ve said before it’s an issue that needs to be thought about every day not just one particular month. That being said, I would like to tell you what a local swim club does and how it has helped my family and what you can do to help them, help others.

Not all kids learn at the same pace. My daughter took swim lessons for maybe a month (2-2 week sessions) and she got it. From a little one whose never had a swimming lesson to swimming pretty much by the end of the first two week session! It was awesome. My son on the other hand has been learning to swim for over six months now going twice a week. He’s inching his way there but it’s not easy and I don’t even know if he’ll be swimming in another six months. He’s getting there but it takes him a long time to learn things like this.

Of course before the lessons at Houston Swim Club he wouldn’t get into the pool without a life vest even though he was tall enough not to need it. He has/had some major fears to overcome as well as muscle strength issues. But through it all the staff and teachers have been AMAZING!

Financially it’s not easy to add an additional expense for a skill like this but it is a life-saving skill kids need to know. Houston Swim Club (HSC) provides assistance to families with children with autism who need it.

You Can Help Kids Learn to Swim

They accept donations to help these families out. All donations go to the “Scholarships for Swimmers with Autism”. Whether it’s a dollar or five dollars, it all helps out families and children who really need it. And you don’t have to be a member to make a donation or even local I don’t believe. Call them and get more information if you’d like to help out. I don’t work for them and am in no way being compensated to share this with you. I am simply a mom of a child with autism who is so grateful for the hard work HSC has done with my son and I know we couldn’t do it without their help and yours.

Houston Swim Club can be reached at 281-807-7946 (SWIM). Give them a call. You’ll be making lots of little kids smile. :) Plus families who make donations will have their name put on a fish to be hung in the Observation Room for everyone to see!!

© 2014, Nanette Gomez. All rights reserved.

Must Be Doing Something Right

kindness

I will admit a lot of the time I think I’m not doing a very good job of being a mom. Maybe all moms are like that, maybe you are, maybe it’s just me. I’m not sure. I mean, I blame myself for so many okay maybe all of my kid’s bad habits. I certainly blame myself for Bug’s autism. I’m sorry but I just can’t seem to get past that one. Some days I can but other days I just can’t. Especially when an article or study comes up showing what might have been the cause and of course, it has to be something I did or took or allowed doctor’s to convince me was safe. UGH.

But then something happens.

kindnessLike yesterday for example, Bug and I were picking up lunch out before we headed over to have lunch with Princess at school. A sweet young lady opened the door for us and got in line behind us. Then to my surprise, Bug leaned in to me and said, “mom, can we let her go first she did open the door for us”.  I smiled and told him “of course we can” so he ever so shyly walked over to her and in a soft voice told her she could go in front of us. She seemed surprised by his gesture but took her place in line in front of us.

I was so proud of him for his kind gesture. First for recognizing her gesture and then politely going up to her and offering his kind gesture in return. He was so happy and smiling from ear to ear. My heart just filled with joy for more than just the obvious reason.

He got it! He really did. He picked up on the social situation and did what he should have without any prompting from me at all. From a special needs mom’s perspective, this is HUGE! So maybe, just maybe I’m doing something right?

© 2013, Nanette Gomez. All rights reserved.