A Therapy Free Day

schedules

schedulesWow, today felt good! I know most parents schedules can get pretty hectic with school drop offs and pick-ups, early morning or after school tutoring, choir practice, other curricular activities and such. But when you add in therapy sessions several time a week it can be down right exhausting. So when you get one of those days when there’s no school which means no tutoring or choir practice and then no therapy scheduled on top of that, yes it feels good.

That’s what we had today. The kids slept in late, we enjoyed breakfast with grandma and grandpa. Mommy did  a few things around the house and then we were out of the house for a bit. It was so nice to get out and spend some free time with grandma and grandpa and not have to rush back to get to therapy somewhere.

It’s not often we get grandma and grandpa all to ourselves. We actually got to have lunch out with them too. The kids loved that and so did I!

Not that I didn’t sneak in a few OT exercises, I did, but not too much. It was a go, go, go day but a really nice one. Amazing how relaxed you feel when you don’t have an appointment to get to. I could get used to this. But I know Bug needs his therapy and I am happy to be able to take him. Wish it could be more actually but for now this has to do.

What do you do on your therapy free days?

© 2013, Nanette Gomez. All rights reserved.

Inching Closer to the Teen Years

children grow

children growMy mom was right yet again! I always remember her saying how quickly time passes. Now as my children inch closer and closer to the teen years I wonder where all that time when they were little? Really it does go by so very quickly. Now as I look back, it really does seem like it was just in the blink of an eye and now they are almost grown.

I can’t imagine how quickly the next few years will go by. Honestly, it makes me a little sad. Can I be selfish and wish they’d stay little longer for me? As much as I want them to, I know they can’t. As my Bug reminded me just the other day as I told him how much I loved him and how proud I was of the young man he is becoming. He turns and tells me, “momma I know about the human life cycle” and he begins to explain it to me. My sappy mommy moment kinda went right past him. It made me smile and even chuckle a little bit though.

  • He listened to all I had to say until it was his turn to talk.
  • He understood what I meant about wishing he could stay little.
  • He responded to the topic we were discussing.
  • He let me hold him in my arms for just a few minutes without pulling away.

He really has come so far. He’s grown SO much. And I mean more than just in height and shoe size. (Although he is almost taller than me already and wears a much bigger shoe size than I do.)

Emotionally he’s stronger, he’s able to listen and converse and understand what’s being said to him. No, this may not be all the time but he did it that day. And that’s huge!

It’s conversation skills, comprehension, the ability to stay on task/topic and controlling of his sensory issues!! ‘Cause if he can do it once, he can do it again and again. And one day, it will all just be natural to him. He won’t have to stop and wonder what’s being said, what he should say and when he should say it.

This post took a total turn from what I thought I would write today, but this is what my heart wanted to say, needed to say. As my eyes fill with tears and my heart overflows with pride for my Bug, I will simply close by saying: “I love you my little Bug, mommy is so very proud of you”.

© 2013, Nanette Gomez. All rights reserved.

4 Things Every Parent Needs to Know

Individualized Education Plans

Individualized Education PlansDid you know that March is National Reading Month? Reading is such a huge aspect in our lives. It’s one of the areas in which my Bug struggles. That’s why his IEP (Individualized Education Program) is so important to me. IEP’s are intended to help children reach educational goals, including success in reading. In fact, all children should be reading on grade level by the end of third grade.

But sadly schools don’t really do a very good job at explaining the whole IEP process. I know I was at a total loss when I had my first one and I admit it’s taken a lot to get me to be strong like I know I need to be for my son. No more being wishy washy intimidated. IEPs are a federal right of every student so I wanted to share a little bit of information from the National Center for Learning Disabilities with you on how to start the IEP process:

  • Make a Request In Writing: A comment or request made verbally in passing to a teacher or school administrator technically didn’t happen. Remember always to place requests for an IEP evaluation or changes to your child’s current IEP in writing to the school administrator in charge of the Committee on Special Education (CSE) in the school district – email or a hand-delivered letter is fine.
  •  Know Your Rights: After you’ve submitted an IEP evaluation letter of request, every school district nationwide is required by law under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) to respond to you within 10 days (school days, not including weekends). The school must provide you with written documentation explaining (1) the parents’ need for consent to conduct an educational evaluation, (2) how the a determination of eligibility will be made, (3) the documentation needed to identify the existence of a Specific Learning Disability (SLD) (if applicable), and (4) confirmation that parents are invited to participate in the IEP process.
  •  Be Patient: Your child’s school has 60 school (or business) days to complete the evaluation, which includes an interview with parents, a conference with the student, observations of the student, and analysis of the student’s performance (attention, behavior, work completion, tests, class work, homework, etc.). Legally the CSE (or IEP team) must include “you” the parent, plus at least one general educator teacher (if your child is in even one general education class) and one special education teacher in the meeting.
  •  Speak Up: The IEP team is charged with developing, reviewing, and revising your child’s IEP at least once a year by law – and more often if you are dissatisfied with your child’s lack of progress. If you’re not satisfied, speak up (and write letters or emails) as often as you feel you need to in order to get results! Remember that you are an equal partner with the school in the IEP process, and the IEP document is intended as a flexible, but binding, agreement that guides everyone involved in the child’s school career to ensure the highest quality instruction and free and appropriate educational services and supports in the least restrictive environment.

Some parent friends of mine and I were discussing this very issue today. IEPs and how they are handled. You have rights and so do your children. The 4th tip is one I underlined not just so you’d take notice but as a constant reminder to myself.

For more information on the IEP process I suggest you take a look at LD.org and if there is anything you’d like to share please do so in the comments. You are not alone even though sometimes it may feel like it, I’ve been there too.

© 2013, Nanette Gomez. All rights reserved.